Healthy Habits for Life

We all want to have a healthy child. Most of us get our wish – a perfect baby, hale and hearty! From the moment they are born, however, we need to safeguard that health – at first by feeding them well through infancy, then by instilling healthy habits from the time they are old enough to learn.

Serve healthy food in your house, and encourage your child to try new foods. When they are very little you can only introduce a new food every few days, but if you make sure to keep trying then by the time they are toddlers they will have learned to enjoy many different tastes and textures.

Avoid keeping snacks and drinks that are high in sugar and salt in your pantry or fridge. Children can quickly acquire a taste for sugary and salty foods, and the habit is hard to break. If you stock carrot sticks instead of chips, and fresh juice instead of soda, your child will naturally make healthier choices.

If they establish this habit before they reach school age, it will be easier for them to continue making good choices as they grow and their health will remain good! They will have more energy and be able to do more things. Once their body becomes accustomed to healthy food, large amounts of fast food or sweets can make them feel sluggish or sick, so they will naturally want to eat well to avoid feeling ill.

The importance of drinking water cannot be stressed enough, especially if your child is into sports! If you make sure they drink plenty of water every day from the time they can manage a cup, they will be more likely to turn to it on hot days when they are in danger of dehydration.

Another important habit for life is exercise! Encourage your child to participate in physical activities in and out of school – they will be stronger and more energetic if they have daily exercise. Don’t forget to set an example – make a point to exercise with your kids when you can!

Regular exercise isn’t just for physical health – mental and emotional health can be improved by physical activity as well. The mind becomes sharper when the body is stimulated, and self esteem can be built by achievements in sports or other physical activity – even solo workouts can be measured against past records to encourage them to raise the bar and give a sense of accomplishment!

If you teach your children to respect the needs of their body by exercising and eating properly, you can easily lead into talking about the bad effects alcohol and drugs can have on them. Since they already know how important it is to treat their body well, they will be more inclined to listen to warnings about which things they shouldn’t put into their system!



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How Traveling Helps in Well-Rounded Grooming of Your Child

Traveling with your child encourages them to try new things, learn new cultures, experience different lifestyles and accept and embrace differences. Incorporate travel into your parenting style to expose your child to the opportunities available worldwide, and to teach them the sky is the limit.

Raising great children doesn’t mean raising robots. It means using your creativity and positive parenting to introduce your child to new things. Raising a superstar requires you to stimulate your child’s interest in life, theirs and others. Exposing them to different languages at an early age not only increases their ability to learn new languages later in life, but it also can be the gateway to learning about different cultures, different ideas.

When you travel continue parenting as you do at home. Expect good manners and respect from your children, and use the world as your classroom, teaching throughout the day. Spend time doing the touristy things, and then spend time with the locals. Learn from them, communicate with them and invite your child to do the same.

Children are naturally curious, so as you travel, encourage them to explore their surroundings and ask questions. Go to parks and find the local hangouts. The more exposure your child has to different people, different customs and different ideas, the more attractive and well-rounded they will become in life.

Discuss the differences you witness and ask your child’s opinion on things. Talk about similarities and differences and how the people reacted to you. Share your thoughts on sites you see. You can use travel as a time to teach acceptance and appreciation of others and of differences in people’s lives. It can also be a time to stimulate your child’s sense of adventure.

Many parenting magazines, parenting websites and other parenting resources publish travel tips and advice for traveling with children. However, some of them neglect to include what a teaching opportunity travel provides. So rather than spending your money in the malls or your regular eating out habits use your cash to educate your child in meaningful and memorable ways.

Travel with your children and introduce them to experiences they would otherwise never have exposure to. If you think you cannot afford to travel, be creative. Look into exchange programs. Hosting a child from another country has as many benefits for your family as it does for your guest. Sending your child to their family will expose them to a new and different world. When international travel is not affordable, explore your region, your community. You and your child will be amazed at the diversity and cultural differences found around the corner.

Traveling with your child and exposing them to the offerings of the world provides them with a more complete understanding of themselves. It helps them discover what provides true happiness and success and teaches them lessons of humanity.



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High Achieving Kids Are Made Not Born

In the modern day and highly competitive world, you need to hone your parenting skills to help your kids survive the competition they will face as adults. The law of survival of the fittest still prevails only the associations may be different. As a parent, you must realize that it is not enough to raise your kids to become just average adults. You need to help them excel in whatever field their talents lie. You need to help them find their passion and where their strengths are. You need to prepare them to compete with the best, and achieve success. If you want to raise high-achieving kids, you will have to put in some good work, because high-achieving kids are made not born. Here are some parenting tips to help you achieve your goal of making your kids high achievers:

Ignite your child’s potential. Discover the hidden talents of your child. How can you discover what is your child’s natural aptitude? As a parent, it will not take you long to discover it if you are observant and you understand your child’s individuality. Most parents are busy trying to make their kids like someone they admire. They impose their own wishes on their kids. Don’t make that mistake! Each child is special; each child has some hidden talents and natural gifts. The best way to find out what your child likes doing is by giving multiple opportunities to them and seeing how they respond to each. You will soon discover what talent they possess and where their passion lies.

Focus on the special talent and the special place where they show their highest enthusiasm. Give that talent the highest priority, primacy and predominance. Yet, take care of their overall development so that they grow into well-balanced adults.  Help your children find one thing in every area of life that they love and will continue to create a balanced life. There is something for every child in every area of life: sports, arts, the favorite in academic field, etc. Your job is helping them find their passion and their talent, and to ignite their potential. And remember: never mix your dreams with your children’s dreams!

Inspire your children! Read to your children and tell them stories of people who have achieved success, preferably in those fields that they love. Discuss the fine points that helped them achieve their goals. More importantly, apply those to your children’s real situation. For instance, when they seem to be losing courage, tell them how someone overcame their weaknesses and came out successful and how all successful people had to practice perseverance and not giving up. There are countless such examples. If you don’t know where to find them, go to the reliable source of the internet.

Be there for your child. Your child will stumble and fall many times, but if you are there to encourage them, they will cross all the hurdles. Praise them for their successes and encourage them to achieve more. While you praise their achievements, remind them there is always room for improvement and the next step, as life is a long journey and the fact is that we cannot stay satisfied with our achievements if we want to stay ahead of the game. We have to keep our skills up-to-date if we want to win the game of life. However, make sure you don’t push your kids so hard that they come to a breaking point. Excess of anything is bad; moderation is key. Go slow; appreciate the effort they are making and set higher goals after each success. This is the simple recipe to raise a healthy high-achieving kid.



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Keeping On The Sunny Side

There is no cloud so dark that it doesn’t have a silver lining. There is no day so grim that it has no redeeming quality! If you make sure your child always sees the glimmer of light, even at the darkest times, you will help them maintain a positive attitude towards life.
Teach your children to treasure each experience. If their team loses the game, help them enjoy the fact that they are strong and healthy enough to play, and start planning for the next one! Dwelling on defeat is a downer; planning a comeback is definitely an upper!
If your daughter starts to bemoan the fact that she is taller than the boys, point out all the things she can do now that she has gotten her height. If your son worries about the shape of his nose, remind him to be thankful he has one to breathe through! There are so many things we take for granted. Teach your children to appreciate life.
There might be rain on the day a picnic was planned. Just camp out in the living room with your feast and watch a movie together. Turning lemons into lemonade is what life is very often about! Don’t let moaning and groaning take over, but figure out how to turn each impediment into an advantage.
If your child learns to look on the bright side, their attitude towards life as a whole will change and the slightest change in plans will not disturb them. Learning to ‘roll with the punches’ is a trait too few possess, and can be a valuable tool for those times when the unexpected rears its head!
Don’t let your children turn into whiners. Make them find the good in all things, and they will learn to have a cheerful attitude in the face of almost everything life may bring. True disasters are rare, thankfully, but too many people treat everyday mishaps as occurrences to dreadful to withstand!
Learning to think positively is a great habit, and should be encouraged daily. If your child shows an ability to come up with an alternative game plan without bemoaning the need for it, they are well on their way to becoming happy, self sufficient adults, able to weather change without flinching. They should take each new obstacle as a challenge rather than an unhappy catastrophe.



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Children and Friendships

Strong friendships can last forever. If your child is the type who makes firm and fast friendships that stand the test of time, they are fortunate indeed! It is however your job as parents to help or hinder friendships, and it is important to recognize the responsibility you have towards your children to help them forge bonds with the right people.
If your teen makes friends easily, you may have trouble keeping track of who they have just invited into their lives. Most parents want their children to have plenty of friends, but the important thing is for them to have the right sort of friends! Helping your children know the difference is part of your job.
Some children are nurturers from the start, and are naturally drawn to the sad or troubled in an attempt to help. This is fine as long as they are just helping someone but not making the troubled kid into their close friend and learning from their bad behaviors and inappropriate actions. Most of the time your kids will be in danger of being wrongly influenced themselves and you need to think seriously about limiting their friendships.
You can encourage your teen to reach out in a safer way by joining a group that does outreach to the troubled kids in their school. This is just good common sense. The teen years are impressionable ones, and developing close relationships with the ‘wrong crowd’ (even with the intent of being helpful or a better example) can be a slippery slope.
There is a fine line to walk between being too controlling and being irresponsible when it comes to who you let your child form friendships with. The best route is to discuss your reasons with your child honestly and openly, and explain that people who exhibit certain types of behavior might not be the best people to hang out with.
Be proactive in meeting your children’s peers and their parents, so you can make a qualified judgment on whether or not they are appropriate friends for your child. That is not to say you have to ban all contact with any but ‘approved’ friends – just that deeper friendships should be reserved for those who can bring your child up, not down.
Teach your teenager that a true friend is someone that they can learn from and share their strengths with. A friendship should offer more than just a person to hang out with – it should bring enrichment and growth to both parties! Often these types of people will be involved in leadership roles and community projects – which is where you want your child to be too.
Find out if there is a teen awareness program to raise awareness about drugs and alcohol. These groups can become tightly knit and provide a solid network of support against peer pressure and offers of such substances. Your children can benefit from the knowledge that they are not alone and at the same time they can help reach out to others to support and encourage!
Watch who your children’s friends are! Who they hang out with is who they will be influenced by, and you want to be sure those influences are positive! Encourage your children to choose friends who excel at something your children can learn from or be inspired by – they can learn and grow by associating with these friends and in turn share their own skills and strengths.
The friendships they make in school can turn into lasting relationships that can stand the tests of distance and time; they can also provide support and enjoyment for years to come! Let your children know that they can be kind to everyone and give of themselves in many ways, but to save their deep friendships for those who have something positive to bring to the table.

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The Glass Half Full: Raising Children to be Positive Thinkers

In many instances in their kids’ lives, parents have a habit of completely ignoring the less positive aspects of their children’s everyday lives and focus mainly on the most positive. For example, when the child feels down because they lost a ball game, parents tend to not approach the issue. However, when they win that big championship, they are patting their kids on the back and telling them what a great job they are doing! Generally, parents’ thought process is to give their kids some time to themselves to deal with the issue. However, that is not exactly how the positive thinking works.

In the previous example, the proper way to handle this situation is not to ignore the issue, but to pick it apart, take the best parts, and then approach your child with it. For example, the game might have been lost, but your child hit two home runs. Accent that to them, but tell them how amazing that first home run was and how proud you were when they hit the second home run. Ask them about what they learned and how they could do better next time. Remind your children on things that they learn from every experience.

Negative thinking is something that can hinder children throughout their lives. A negative thinker will not try to do something that they think they might fail at. What’s the point in trying if you will probably lose? On the other hand, the positive thinker will look at the situation and consider it a challenge. They go for the challenge and will consider the fact that if they make it, the success will be so much more enjoyable, simply because the odds are against them.

Of course, one of the best ways to teach your children to instinctively think positively is to be that way yourselves. That means you should not fill your days with such phrases as, “I dread doing this,” or “This is a losing situation.” Start avoiding negative words as much as possible. Words such as: cannot, could not, fail, failure, and never. These negative words in your vocabulary will eventually become part of your children’s. Remember, the very first words that they learned were from you!

Another way to create a positive mindset in your children is to challenge them. Early on in life, children are instinctively positive thinkers. They believe that there is nothing that they cannot conquer. This is why the words, “I dare you,” hold so much power with children. When someone dares them, it is a challenge. Use this to your advantage. Challenge them to do things that some other children cannot do. If they fail, tell them how proud you are that they aren’t afraid to take a chance and at how determined they are. We need to teach our kids early in life that a challenge is a good thing, not just another failure waiting to happen!

Teach your children to see challenges as opportunities. If you teach your children that a challenge is a positive concept, then when that daunting job opportunity pops up later on in life, they will smile and say, “I believe in myself.”




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Love of Learning

Instilling a passion for knowledge in your child goes hand in hand with their desire to learn and excel in school! If you make sure your child gets all they can out of the classroom experience by showing them how they can use their learning everyday they will quickly come to appreciate schooling as a privilege rather than a chore.

Ask your child what they learn in school, and listen to the answer! Often your child hasn’t a notion that you would be interested, though inside they may be glowing from achieving a special goal or solving a particularly hard problem.

Show them that you are interested, and let your enthusiasm echo theirs. Take a moment to let them show you the new trick they learned to multiply fractions, or explain how plants turn sunlight into food. It doesn’t matter that you already know – what is important is that they are excited about it!

Pretty soon you child will be volunteering information as they move through their day – “Hey, those are Cumulus clouds” or “Did you know that sunsets are red because of dust?” They will begin to apply the things they learn at school to events in their day, and their lives will be richer as a result!

As your child becomes more involved with extracurricular activities you may not be able to follow them to every meet or game. That’s OK! Letting them strike out on their own enables them to become self reliant – if you have parented them properly they know you are there in spirit, so don’t give way to doubt or guilt if you don’t make it to every event. Teach your children to cheer for themselves and not expect external motivation for success!

Of course you want to enjoy your child’s closeness to you, and helping them become an independent person doesn’t take away from that bond you have with them. Instead, it strengthens it because they learn that they can make decisions about who to admire and lean on – and you will always be one of those people.

When the time to apply to colleges arrives, your child should be calm and confident of success! Their learning and your support will have paid off in the best possible way. That is not to say there will be no obstacles or stumbling blocks in the way, but if you have raised your child to love learning they will treat each new challenge as an addition to their education, and meet it with the same zest they apply to the rest of their lives!

If you manage to instill a deep love of knowledge in your child from an early age, there is no doubt that they will find a way to achieve their goals. Every difficulty faced and battle fought will be worth it on graduation day, and you can rest assured that your child will never stop learning!



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High Achieving Kids Are Made Not Born

In the modern day and highly competitive world, you need to hone your parenting skills to help your kids survive the competition they will face as adults. The law of survival of the fittest still prevails only the associations may be different. As a parent, you must realize that it is not enough to raise your kids to become just average adults. You need to help them excel in whatever field their talents lie. You need to help them find their passion and where their strengths are. You need to prepare them to compete with the best, and achieve success. If you want to raise high-achieving kids, you will have to put in some good work, because high-achieving kids are made not born. Here are some parenting tips to help you achieve your goal of making your kids high achievers:
•    Ignite your child’s potential. Discover the hidden talents of your child. How can you discover what is your child’s natural aptitude? As a parent, it will not take you long to discover it if you are observant and you understand your child’s individuality. Most parents are busy trying to make their kids like someone they admire. They impose their own wishes on their kids. Don’t make that mistake! Each child is special; each child has some hidden talents and natural gifts. The best way to find out what your child likes doing is by giving multiple opportunities to them and seeing how they respond to each. You will soon discover what talent they possess and where their passion lies.
•    Focus on the special talent and the special place where they show their highest enthusiasm. Give that talent the highest priority, primacy and predominance. Yet, take care of their overall development so that they grow into well-balanced adults. Help your children find one thing in every area of life that they love and will continue to create a balanced life. There is something for every child in every area of life: sports, arts, the favorite in academic field, etc. Your job is helping them find their passion and their talent, and to ignite their potential. And remember: never mix your dreams with your children’s dreams!
•    Inspire your children! Read to your children and tell them stories of people who have achieved success, preferably in those fields that they love. Discuss the fine points that helped them achieve their goals. More importantly, apply those to your children’s real situation. For instance, when they seem to be losing courage, tell them how someone overcame their weaknesses and came out successful and how all successful people had to practice perseverance and not giving up. There are countless such examples. If you don’t know where to find them, go to the reliable source of the internet.
•    Be there for your child. Your child will stumble and fall many times, but if you are there to encourage them, they will cross all the hurdles. Praise them for their successes and encourage them to achieve more. While you praise their achievements, remind them there is always room for improvement and the next step, as life is a long journey and the fact is that we cannot stay satisfied with our achievements if we want to stay ahead of the game. We have to keep our skills up-to-date if we want to win the game of life. However, make sure you don’t push your kids so hard that they come to a breaking point. Excess of anything is bad; moderation is key. Go slow; appreciate the effort they are making and set higher goals after each success. This is the simple recipe to raise a healthy high-achieving kid.



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Invitation to be in “View from the Bay’s” Studio Audience

I would like to extend a special invitation to Dr. Brenda Wade & Terri Khonsari’s friends, family and colleagues to be in our studio audience the day that they will be appearing  on “The View From The Bay” Tuesday Nov. 17th, 2009.

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